On Father's Day, a friend of mine who is about the same age as my older daughters, linked to an album on Facebook which was a sort of retrospective of her husband from their early marriage to the present. It was very nice seeing him with their five children as they were born and grew older.
My first thought was what a good idea she had had.
My second thought was that if I did that, it would take up about three times the space.
My third thought was, “Oh no, it wouldn’t!”
|Way too easy to destroy pictures.|
The reason for this is that I remembered that digital pictures were not around when we got married. In fact, in 1971 when we got married, disposable cameras were 15 years in the future. We had to actually put the film in the camera and take it out when we had taken the pictures. And, if you forgot to roll it up before you opened the back of the camera, all the film was over-exposed. And, it took forever to get them developed. And who could have afforded to pay to develop the hundreds, thousands of pictures that people take now?
|Not my husband|
So, although we took a lot of pictures, I’m not sure that I could dredge up even 20 pictures of my husband from the early years of our marriage. He was the photographer and he was really good at avoiding being photographed himself. I can’t remember any pictures of him playing with the children, although he did play with the children. There just wasn’t a cellphone lying around to take a picture with. If by some strange chance there had been a cellphone around, it certainly wouldn’t have had a camera in it, but it would have large enough to use to beat someone senseless.
I’ve wondered a lot about whether taking pictures of people doesn’t result in your only remembering the pictures and not the thousands of other moments that occurred at any particular event. Do you remember the birthday party or only pictures of the birthday party? And would you be able to picture it in your mind at all if you didn’t have the pictures to remind you?
Now, of course, you can also record things on your phone. My daughter has hours of videos of her daughter learning to walk, talk, swinging, singing, you name it. It reminds me of the few vacations we took with my father’s huge VHS recorder. She really liked being both behind and in front of the camera. We had a great tape of our vacation in
which included a conversation with a really interesting old guy who worked on
the trolley line, but it wasn’t 24 hours before someone recorded Three Men and
a Baby on top of it.